Marriage

The Destroyer of Relationships

In his book, Making Love Last Forever, the late Gary Smalley explains that the number one destroyer of relationships is unresolved anger. And while Ephesians (4:31f) urges us to get rid of all bitterness, passion, anger, harsh words, and replace them with kindness, compassion, and forgiveness … it is easier said than done. We get stuck at that contradictory point where our hearts cry for peace, but our brains scream for revenge. That is because we are in pain. We have been hurt. And though we might desire peace, we just can’t seem to let it go – the anger.

In general, you learned your anger management techniques from your family of origin. That is where you learned to deal with hurt, frustration and fear. That is where you learned new coping skills. Or perhaps, that is where there was a shortage of coping skills. If you are an…

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About the Author

Deacon Dan Powers

Deacon Dan Powers is assigned to Holy Spirit Parish in Las Vegas, Nevada. He is a retired Army Sergeant Major, as well as a retired clinical family therapist, and former Clinical Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. He is married to Ninga, a retired Social Worker. They survived raising two teenagers who are now adults, and have three grandchildren.